Court, home life, dating

Ok so a little more info on what’s up in my life. Tomorrow I will be heading into to court yet again, this time its to get full custody of my girls, I have been trying to work things out with my ex as far a visitation since he moved to NJ. But as usual he had to mess that up, he threatened not to give the girls back just 1 too many times so I filed for custody and until this issue is settled he wont be seeing them. At this point its been since the 4th of July. I also need to have the transporting issue settled, he moved out of state and at minimum it’s a 3.5 hour drive, he wants me to transport 1 way, well I wouldn’t mind if he paid what he is supposed to in child support but the way things stand I cant afford the gas and tolls etc, so hopefully the judge see this and has him provide the transportation. For the past month I have been trying to have him served but the process server has been unable to do it as he’s been ducking them. When I go into to court tomorrow I hope the judge will agree to mail service because again due to money issues I can not afford to keep paying for professional service. Does anybody have any experience with this?


Now the reason I moved in with my sister is that she has MS and can’t work anymore, she’s getting a divorce and needed help paying the bills so she doesn’t lose her house. I am starting to think the good idea is now becoming a bad one. The main reason she needs help with the bills is she doesn’t know how not to spend money on frivolous things. We are behind on several bills yet her kids are still in tae kwan do yes I do understand that they love it but when your struggling to pay your bills something has to give. She has now also put her daughter and one of mine in gymnastics on sat open gym $20 each which isn’t much but every dollar counts right now. For instance we got into an argument last weekend about the bills, I agreed to pay the electric bill and she was going to cover other bills well I come home yesterday and she went out and bought her daughter several pairs of jeans grrrr. My girls have been doing without so we can pay bills but she just goes and spend money like its nothing. Sorry but I needed a vent.

One of the things I’ve been doing lately is writing to a prison inmate, it’s actually been a good thing I am lifting his spirits and making his days just a little bit brighter. I also feel good for doing this. If anyone is interested in having a pen pal let me know. I know you all probably think I am crazy but he’s a friend of a friend, who’s had a rough life and went down the wrong path, he’s paying his debt and looking forward to becoming a good citizen when he is released. We have become very good friends.

I have also been dating, shocking isn’t it? Lol I have met some good guys and some freaks. The good ones are still my friends and freaks well need I say more? One of my best friends is Rob I call him my boyfriend with out the strings. He does everything that a boyfriend should do except we aren’t physical. Even our kids are best friends. The guy I am currently seeing has many issues one of which is he’s still on the emotional divorce roller coaster, so some days he wants to be in a relationship with me and some days he doesn’t. Rebound rubber band, but all in all he’s a good guy and I am crazy about him. He’s had some rough times lately and wonders why I stick with him, sometimes I wonder too but I like him and care about him so I am willing to see where it leads as long as he continues to be honest with me. I know you are saying I am nuts but I am having fun and my eyes are wide open. I will not be hurt because I am not looking for life long love at this point.

Wow I have written a lot for today will try and update tomorrow after court.